Y'all... He nearly bit my n.pple off. Seriously. He has my big horse teeth up top, and sharp little teeth on the bottom. He didn't do it on purpose. I had him in bed with us in the later wee hours of the morning...both of us were dosing. He was dosing while nursing though, and apparently forgot what he was doing and chomped down.
I screamed awake, grabbed my boob, woke Hotness up, and MySon was startled but went back to sleep (why can't he do that well when he's on his own?). As I was getting ready a little later that morning, there were quite the little teeth marks with dried blood.
Oof, it's easy to see why people wean sooner if they have a persistent biter.
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Our sleep woes continue. Up every hour last night*. I revisited the notion of letting him cry...I always do with nights like that. If he's going to wail in my arms, I might as well let him wail in his crib? (Though he usually still settles down in my arms, whereas the crib...not so much)
Is it normal for them to cry for like, 2 hours straight with no sign of stopping while training? I get all this resolve to let him learn to fall asleep on his own, and then he just stands in the corner of his crib wailing for forever. I've read some mama's mention that you have to just let them cry for as long as it takes...that it takes a few days to work itself out?
Part of me is trying to determine if, at 9 months old, my son should be napping on his own and sleeping through the night...and since he's not, if I'm going to cause him to have serious issues. Or maybe I'm just nervous about holidays with family and being pointed at and talked about because he still naps with me, and has been so very difficult in the night the last few months. I really suck at this whole parenting thing.
*I should mention we are on week 3 of my not nursing him every time he wakes up. I only nurse around 3am, and the other times I just hold him and rock him back to sleep.
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23 months this month. I'm perplexed by the holidays this year. I'm deliriously excited for Christmas with MySon. I loved Christmas...and then MyStar died. And I still love it really. But how to give MyStar her own special time for us to think about her and not just be all high on glitzed out lights with Santa shooting snow out his ass. How to create traditions that include her.
Speaking of traditions. I want to make our holiday stockings. I don't know whether to make one for MyStar or not. Part of me adamantly says absolutely. Another part says to not be the weird family who has a stocking for their dead daughter. I hate caring. I miss some of the raw intensity that made me not care in those early months...kinda fucked up to say. It made it easier for me to make decisions about how to include MyStar.
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Wishing everyone some moments of peace as the holidays are near.
OUCH!!! That is rough! Ugh and the sleeping thing, that totally sucks. I wish I knew what to suggest but as you know we're kind of in the same boat with the co-sleeping situation. Maybe we can both get some good advice from others?!
ReplyDeleteI hear you on the raw emotions that made decisions easier before. I was just saying to N the other day that maybe it's time to move Lily's picture in our dining room as I'm starting to wonder if it weirds people out. I never cared about that before and now being farther out from the loss I can look at it differently. I was also looking into getting family stockings this year and am SO excited about our first Christmas together! Hadn't thought of doing a stocking for Lily but you should definitely go with what feels best for you. Hope things smooth out with the cry fests and sleeping situation ((hugs))
It sounds like you are doing great with the sleeping/napping. I always lie down with my kids, then get up when they fall asleep. My daughter transferred to her bed at 18 months and stopped nursing without any repercussions. But Thor is still nursing at night and coming into our bed. And the biting...oh, Lord, I actually googled, "Can a baby bite your nipple off?"
ReplyDeleteI know we have already talked about this, but still want to offer some condolences on the sleep thing. It is so rough. Parents should be given a 'guide book' for how to operate your child without future damage! ha! at 5 1/2 and 3 i still sit in the glider for a few minutes with my kids at bedtime. for me it is the reassurance that they know they are safe and I am there if they need anything. they both still occasionally end up in our bed, or one of us in bed with one of them. I don't care, and i don't care what my family thinks. I used to, now not so much. my thinking goes along the lines of, whatever gets the most people in the house the most amount of sleep, then that is what we do. hang in there, you are a wonderful mother, and a beautiful person.
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